I m contented

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Not at all. I have accepted that I am the type of person who will always be striving for a goal, the type of person who enjoys a challenge, and who enjoys the journey. We choose whether we are happy or unhappy. Edit based on reader comments : I cannot speak to whether this concept of happiness applies to everyone — especially clinically depressed or those with similar disorders, people who are starving or homeless, people who have undergone massive tragedies or abuse, or others in such circumstances.

However, for most readers, I believe the principles will apply. And sometimes, I was unhappy in those kinds of conditions. And others, I was happy and content. What behaviors and thoughts and attitudes were different between my times of unhappiness and happiness?

When I was unhappy, I focused on all the bad things in my life. I would be grumpy and cause those around me to be unhappy. That, in turn, only made the situation worse. Because while I had problems at my job and with my relationships and with my finances and health and all that … there were still good things. At least I had a job! At least I had someone who loved me! I counted, instead, my blessings. I had a wife and beautiful children. I had the power to change my job.

To simplify my life. To get out of debt. I had my health, even if I was overweight. I lived on a beautiful island with gorgeous beaches and wildlife and greenery. I had family around me who loved me. I had the power of my words, and my books that I loved reading. I had life! And this outlook on life helped me to be happier. It improved my relationship, because I tried to appreciate my wife.

I was happy, despite my conditions, because I chose to be happy. I found contentment in what I already had, instead of wishing I had something else, instead of being discontented with what I had. Contentment not only made me happy, but it transformed my life in many ways.

I m contented

Contentedness, on the other hand, is a matter of being satisfied with what you have. It influences happiness. However, you can choose to be content, just as you can choose to be happy, and if you choose to be content, you will be happy. There are many ways to become happy — you can become happy by doing certain things running, getting into Flow, sexyou can become happy because you are loved or in love, you can become happy because you just won a competition or a million dollars. Simplicity Simplicity, of course, means many things to many people, but for me contentedness is at the core of simplicity.

Simplicity means examining why you want more, and solving that issue at its root. At the root of wanting more is not being content with what you have. You can stop acquiring, and start enjoying. I wanted a Macbook Air and I got it. However, in my defense, I waited more than a month before buying it to make sure I needed it. But while I am not immune to wants, I have learned to catch myself now and then, and to examine why I want something. And then I try to tell myself that I already have everything I could possibly want and need. And that contentedness le to simplicity.

Finances Really this is the same as simplicity, but I wanted to show it from a financial angle. The reason we get into financial trouble, oftentimes, is that we buy more than we can afford. And the root of that buying is buying things we want instead of only things we need, and the root of that is not being content with what we already have. Finding contentment with the stuff you have and with a simpler life can lead to buying less, to buying things we need instead of want, and to only spending what we can afford.

I know this first-hand, as uncontrolled spending led to debt for me, and contentedness led to me getting out of debt. Instead, learn to be content with the person you love, just as they are.

I m contented

However, you will only find trouble if you try to change your ificant other. You might get them to change their behavior but most often notbut they will be unhappy, and in turn the relationship will suffer. I will admit to having a problem with this at times, but when this happens, I try to remind myself to love my partner as she is, for who she is.

She is a beautiful person, just as she is now, and there is absolutely no need to change her. This has always led to a better relationship for me. Kids As mentioned above, parents are often not satisfied with their children. They need to be cleaner, better behaved, better in school, more organized and studious, more courteous and kind and compassionate, better groomed and better at sports. It also le to inferiority complexes in our children, in unhappiness, and in bad relationships with them. Instead, we should learn to love our children unconditionally, to accept them for the people they are, and to let them know this through not only our words but our actions.

Jobs Should we be content with our jobs? However, I have learned that being a content person in other areas of my life, and being content with my life in general, has generally helped me at any job. Discontented people tend to be complainers, or grumpy, or negative. That le to problems at the job. People who are content tend not to complain and tend to have a more positive attitude, and in my experience that almost always le to more opportunities, both within the job promotions, new projects, etc.

I disagree completely, and as someone who would like a freer society than the one in which we currently live, I have given this much thought. My favorite social disrupter, Gandhi, had two seemingly contradictory quotes on the subject of contentedness. This might seem confusing until you look at how Gandhi brought about change. He was discontent with the system of oppression in his country, so he sought to change it.

However, he was content as a person, with who he was and what he had in his personal life. This inner content allowed him to have the inner power to face and eventually beat the very powerful authorities in his country at the time.

I m contented

He could face them because nothing they could do to him could take away his happiness. They could take away all his possessions, throw him in prison, take away even food, and he was content. He taught his fellow countrymen the same lesson, to make the best of what they had in India making their own simple clothing, making their own food instead of wanting the commercial goods from foreign countries. Being content with such simplicity would give them the independence from foreign commercial powers, and eventually as they are part of the same organism foreign political powers.

So social change can still happen if you are content with yourself, with your life, but not content with the system of oppression around you. Getting to Contentment So if contentedness is so great, how do you get there? post: Best of Zen Habits: March Accept children for who they are, and they will be happier, and so will you.

I m contented

And I would bet there are many. Stop, and remind yourself. When you find yourself unhappy with someone, or trying to change them, stop yourself.

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Take a moment to think about the good things about that person, the reasons you love that person. Then accept their faults as part of their entire package. Stop, and consider why you want something. Consider why you want something. Are you not content with what you already have? Why not?

I m contented

Take time to appreciate your life! I like to reflect on my life, and all the good things in it, on a regular basis. Show people you appreciate them. Give them a hug, smile, spend time with them, thank them out loud, thank them publicly. Breathe, and smile. Once again, advice from one of my favorite monks, but it works in this context. Sometimes when we take the time to breathe, and smile, it can change our outlook on life. Learn to enjoy the simple things.

Conversations and walks with other people. Spending time outdoors. Watching a DVD or playing board games. Going to the beach. Playing sports.

I m contented

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